For the “Living with Gusto” series, we may not find a better visual example than Rob Adelphia’s bungee jumping video. Blogging at Today Has Power and The Four the Road Family, Rob has gone through more than his share of challenges but is the epitome of how we can overcome anything when we put our mind to it. If you need a jumpstart in your life, pick up his eBook, “How to Get Anything You Want Out of Life…And More!”
Based on his childhood, nobody would have ever thought that Rob Adelphia the truck driver could be a writer and that he would one day be planning for a family bicycle trip across the entire United States. But his story isn’t the standard inspirational plot. There wasn’t one turning point when everything started to go right. Instead, his journey had a long and twisting path and his message is that change often doesn’t happen instantly. It’s the essence behind this video of his second time bungee jumping. The first time didn’t make it any easier, but what’s important is that he continued and continues to seek growth:
“Failure was the only thing I was consistent at,” Rob says as he begins the story of his life. “I began to drink in my early teenage years, I graduated late, and I worked at over 10 different places.” Some may attribute this to his less-than-ideal upbringing. “There wasn’t extra anything and not enough of most things,” he explains. How could there be enough in a household of a single 19-year-old mother with two children whose partner had ended his own life just before Rob came into this world? “Our family was vulnerable to the ups and downs of living in poorer communities,” Rob remembers. “I witnessed and experienced a lot of things that a child shouldn’t.”
He sums up his childhood with an anecdote of a seventh-grade basketball game. “The referee halted play, came over to my coach, and told him I had to leave the floor because my shoes were falling apart,” Rob recounts. “He considered it a hazard. In front of the crowd, the opposing team, and my team, I found a place on the bench and sat down wishing I would awake.” Nevertheless, despite the rollercoaster of attending at least five grammar schools and working such a range of jobs from pizza places to washing trucks to the army reserves, Rob still felt that he had a bright future ahead of him. “There was something inside that pointed toward hope,” he remembers. “The problem was that I was stuck on making poor choices again and again — a terrible pattern to be in. Excuses and blaming were close at hand for me.”
These days, Rob also makes it a habit to reach outside of his comfort zone in the face of all that holds him back from his dreams. “We all have things that are keeping us where we are,” he says humbly.
“It could be our feet on the ledge before bungee jumping or not sitting down to write the first page because it might not be good enough. I just decided that I might always have a fear of heights, but I’ll just have to be afraid on the way down. I may always think my writing is subpar, but it will be while handing the finished product to an editor. I don’t believe in self-imposed boundaries that imprison. I believe in forcing the issue and let’s just see where it ends up.”
Through personal experiences and the slow process of trial and error, Rob began to discover some of the keys to success in life, such as: “accountability and acceptance of my actions, self-discipline, and persistence.” From this development, there was a smooth transition to impacting others’ lives. “Once I began to have a bit of success, it just seemed a natural thing for me to offer my smile to hearts. It is that simple,” he says matter-of-factly. “I guarantee that there is someone that needs your smile in their heart right now. You don’t have to be a ‘guru’ but just someone that can say, ‘You matter’ because they do. We all do.”
In reaching out, Rob soon realized that many shared a similar story to his own. “People ask questions, such as, ‘Am I good enough? Can a person like me?’” he observed. “I wanted a place to say, ‘You are’ and to say, ‘It is exactly a person like you that can be liked.’ I wanted to let that person awash in turmoil know, ‘It’s your time.’” Rob’s blog, Today Has Power, stemmed from this desire and he now touches the hearts of an international audience with his wife by his side handling the magic behind the scenes, his son on his lap, and his whiz of a daughter maintaining her own website alongside him.
Apart from embarking on a mega cross-country bicycle trip with his family (follow their adventures at The Four the Road Family blog), Rob is also currently working on various writing projects, including a children’s adventure book that will be offered on Amazon. “It wasn’t so long ago that I was driving a truck,” he reminisces. “It took me a while to realize it was time. My time. I try to encapsulate that idea on my blog. I want everyone to know that this is their time. To decide on it and take action.”
What do you need to take action on today?